I was diagnosed July 2012. Since than my world has been turned upside down same as all of you. I was in a 17 year marriage with two elementary age children. My ex wife wanted a divorce last July 2013 and she was granted primary custody of our children. Also she and I have worked for the same law enforcement agency for over 11 years.
My MS along with the stress of how everything has been ripped apart in the last 2 years has taken a major tole on me. It has caused issues with my job to the point that I'm considered a liability risk and unable to perform the job task and all the stress to go with the environment. I have ran out of time and now considered leave with out pay, but have payed into short term and long term disability.
However, it was confirmed today that my disability will be significantly lower going off my prior salary before my huge raise for my longevity with department after 10 years. The disability goes 60 to 66% of my salary, but was is so painful is that will it be multiplied by $10,000 less a year from my current salary. I missed out by not being able to work two more weeks of last working day of the fiscal year.
I am so hurt and destroyed in all of this and don't know where to turn besides my faith in the lord. I don't have any immediate family to help and very concerned of my future and having to go on disability. I have had so many from work, family, and friends that have alienated and shunned me out.
I so want to keep living for my kids and know how wonderful of a father I am. My ex wife and ex-in-laws always bragged about that. Now I don't exist. I had it all. Beautiful family (my ex and I were the Barbie and Ken), dream house that we had built for our kids. Good paying jobs. Not to brag I'm a good looking man. I have learnt that our society still is so shallow that we are based on the job you have and your health.
I miss the intimacy with my ex-wife. I want to enjoy life. Since my life began to crumble almost two years ago with my diagnosis its so hard to see the finish line.
Please need any advise, prayers, other relating stories, encouragement. I'm truly in a desperate place! God Bless to all!
My MS along with the stress of how everything has been ripped apart in the last 2 years has taken a major tole on me. It has caused issues with my job to the point that I'm considered a liability risk and unable to perform the job task and all the stress to go with the environment. I have ran out of time and now considered leave with out pay, but have payed into short term and long term disability.
However, it was confirmed today that my disability will be significantly lower going off my prior salary before my huge raise for my longevity with department after 10 years. The disability goes 60 to 66% of my salary, but was is so painful is that will it be multiplied by $10,000 less a year from my current salary. I missed out by not being able to work two more weeks of last working day of the fiscal year.
I am so hurt and destroyed in all of this and don't know where to turn besides my faith in the lord. I don't have any immediate family to help and very concerned of my future and having to go on disability. I have had so many from work, family, and friends that have alienated and shunned me out.
I so want to keep living for my kids and know how wonderful of a father I am. My ex wife and ex-in-laws always bragged about that. Now I don't exist. I had it all. Beautiful family (my ex and I were the Barbie and Ken), dream house that we had built for our kids. Good paying jobs. Not to brag I'm a good looking man. I have learnt that our society still is so shallow that we are based on the job you have and your health.
I miss the intimacy with my ex-wife. I want to enjoy life. Since my life began to crumble almost two years ago with my diagnosis its so hard to see the finish line.
Please need any advise, prayers, other relating stories, encouragement. I'm truly in a desperate place! God Bless to all!
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