Hi, my name is Ronni. My husband has been 'diagnosed' with MS. However, the neurologist said it's a diagnosis based on eliminating everything else that it could possibly be. Because there was nothing on his MRI and because of damage he has to his back and neck and migraines that he gets, he's not comfortable doing a spinal tap which *could* show..........well, whatever it is that's in the spinal fluid that tells him definitively that he has MS. So now we've got a 'diagnosis' but he won't give him any medication of any kind that *might* slow the progress of the disease, which is what he would do if he'd been able to diagnose him based on testing. Gah!! His answer was basically 'see ya in a year and we'll try again'.
My husband has gone from a VERY active and independent guy (was in law enforcement, road patrol in a VERY busy district) to a home bound man that's crippled by pain and a failing body, all in seven years. The neurologist went over the progress of his symptoms and said they started probably about nine years ago. He's had a neurologist since before then but it took until a few months ago to find one that diagnosed him, even thought of this. He also said his diagnosis, even if it had come nine years ago, is very late since this is a 'young person' disease. My husband just turned 52.
He's currently been diagnosed also with COPD and is on oxygen at least 12 hours a day. If he 'behaves' during the day and stays in his room and doesn't do anything but sit around and the room stays cool he can go without it. If we go anyplace he's got to take his portable tank with him. In the warmer months - when temps get near 70 or higher - he's home bound. If he goes anyplace he can't be out in the heat and must be in a vehicle with good A/C as he's not able to regulate his body temp anymore and his oxygen saturation levels plummet. A year ago last September he was admitted to the hospital in cardiac and respiratory distress and there for a week because of it.
Aside from the pulmonary issues that his specialist is working on, he's got a lot of weakness in his left side and falls many times a week. He uses a cane to walk but also has a walker and I'm pushing him to USE it!! When he had the strokes we were told they were TIAs which are temporary strokes and that all feeling would come back on the left side. That still hasn't happened. He has a lot of numbness and tingling all the time, and on several occasions a day his entire left side goes totally numb and he falls or drops what he's holding.
He also has a lot of problems with confusion and cognitive issues. He's a college educated man and the kids growing up always called him the grammar Nazi, so this is really upsetting to him. It's affected him so deeply that he's stopped going places where he will be forced to converse with others and is even too embarrassed to talk to his parents on a regular basis which upsets me terribly as they're getting older and if something happens I know he will hate himself for it. His parents are so amazing and so understanding of what he's going through because his older sister has been diagnosed with MS for quite a while now. Her symptoms from what I understand are a bit different than his, and she handles this disease with more grace than any human being I've ever know. I'm just absolutely in awe of her. To see the difference in how the two handle it is heartbreaking.
Anyway, that's what he's going through. I guess what bothers me the most is the diagnosis without treatment. It's so hard to watch him going 'downhill' for lack of a better description, so fast. I want to help but I don't know what to do. I've taken over everything at home. I'm not working right now but I know I've got to go back at some point. My in laws have taken over our mortgage for us but they can't do it forever. He won't allow a nurse to come care for him though so I don't know what I"ll do when I go back to work. He needs help getting up and sitting back down, taking medications (he tends to get confused and takes the wrong ones), showering and dressing, making meals and because he falls a lot and because he chokes on his food on a regular basis I'm afraid to leave him home on his own.
I guess I came here hoping that someone else might have this diagnosis by process of eliminating everything else and have ideas on how he can get a 'real' diagnosis and treatment if in fact this is the problem. Or if there are other ideas for what we can do. He spent four or five months having tests done constantly. Any thoughts?
My husband has gone from a VERY active and independent guy (was in law enforcement, road patrol in a VERY busy district) to a home bound man that's crippled by pain and a failing body, all in seven years. The neurologist went over the progress of his symptoms and said they started probably about nine years ago. He's had a neurologist since before then but it took until a few months ago to find one that diagnosed him, even thought of this. He also said his diagnosis, even if it had come nine years ago, is very late since this is a 'young person' disease. My husband just turned 52.
He's currently been diagnosed also with COPD and is on oxygen at least 12 hours a day. If he 'behaves' during the day and stays in his room and doesn't do anything but sit around and the room stays cool he can go without it. If we go anyplace he's got to take his portable tank with him. In the warmer months - when temps get near 70 or higher - he's home bound. If he goes anyplace he can't be out in the heat and must be in a vehicle with good A/C as he's not able to regulate his body temp anymore and his oxygen saturation levels plummet. A year ago last September he was admitted to the hospital in cardiac and respiratory distress and there for a week because of it.
Aside from the pulmonary issues that his specialist is working on, he's got a lot of weakness in his left side and falls many times a week. He uses a cane to walk but also has a walker and I'm pushing him to USE it!! When he had the strokes we were told they were TIAs which are temporary strokes and that all feeling would come back on the left side. That still hasn't happened. He has a lot of numbness and tingling all the time, and on several occasions a day his entire left side goes totally numb and he falls or drops what he's holding.
He also has a lot of problems with confusion and cognitive issues. He's a college educated man and the kids growing up always called him the grammar Nazi, so this is really upsetting to him. It's affected him so deeply that he's stopped going places where he will be forced to converse with others and is even too embarrassed to talk to his parents on a regular basis which upsets me terribly as they're getting older and if something happens I know he will hate himself for it. His parents are so amazing and so understanding of what he's going through because his older sister has been diagnosed with MS for quite a while now. Her symptoms from what I understand are a bit different than his, and she handles this disease with more grace than any human being I've ever know. I'm just absolutely in awe of her. To see the difference in how the two handle it is heartbreaking.
Anyway, that's what he's going through. I guess what bothers me the most is the diagnosis without treatment. It's so hard to watch him going 'downhill' for lack of a better description, so fast. I want to help but I don't know what to do. I've taken over everything at home. I'm not working right now but I know I've got to go back at some point. My in laws have taken over our mortgage for us but they can't do it forever. He won't allow a nurse to come care for him though so I don't know what I"ll do when I go back to work. He needs help getting up and sitting back down, taking medications (he tends to get confused and takes the wrong ones), showering and dressing, making meals and because he falls a lot and because he chokes on his food on a regular basis I'm afraid to leave him home on his own.
I guess I came here hoping that someone else might have this diagnosis by process of eliminating everything else and have ideas on how he can get a 'real' diagnosis and treatment if in fact this is the problem. Or if there are other ideas for what we can do. He spent four or five months having tests done constantly. Any thoughts?
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