SORRY, BUT THIS WILL BE A BIT LONG. HOW HAVE PEOPLE DEALT WITH AN UNSUPPORTIVE SPOUSE? MY HUSBAND MAKES GRAND SPEECHES ABOUT BEING THERE FOR ME, HELPING ME, PICKING UP SOME RESPONSIBILITY BUT THEN BECOMES ANGRY AND NITPICKY TOWARDS ME.
I HAVE COGNITIVE ISSUES AND WOULD LIKE HIM TO HELP WITH FINANCES CAUSE I'M AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES. I HAD ONE DAY OF POSITIVE TALK ABOUT HELPING. THEN I AM ATTACKED ABOUT SOMETHING UNRELATED AND NO OTHER HELP ON FINANCES (I DO FINANCES ONLINE USING QUICKEN).
HE HAS BELITTLED ME TO OTHERS, PAINTS ME AS A COMPLAINER (AND HERE I AM COMPLAINING) AND RESENTS ME CAUSE I HAVE SOMEONE WHO COMES IN TO WASH FLOORS AND VACUUM EVERY OTHER WEEK. HE TELLS ME I AM UNSYMPATHETIC TO HIM AND ALL HE IS GOING THROUGH BUT DOESN'T OFFER ANY SUSTAINED RECOGNITION OF THE CHALLENGES I HAVE WITH MS. I WORK 32 HOURS A WEEK AND MANAGE MOST TASKS YET, THOUGH SLOWER.
I AM AFRAID TO HAVE HIM COME TO MY NEUROLOGIST WITH ME CAUSE OF WHAT HE WILL SAY. HE TOLD THE DOC WHO DID MY NEUROPSYCH TESTS I WAS A GENIOUS (WHICH, OF COURSE, I AM NOT) AND HE DIDN'T NOTICE ANY MEMORY OR OTHER ISSUES I HAVE BUT THEN CONTINUOUSLY POINTS OUT MY POOR MEMORY.
I WAS ONLY RECENTLY DXD BUT WAS TOLD 20 YEARS AGO I HAD "PROBABLE" MS SO THIS ISN'T SOMETHING WE WERE SURPRISED BY. ANYONE WHO CAN OFFER ANY INSIGHT OR HAS A SPOUSE/SIGNIFICANT OTHER WHO IS/WAS SO CHALLENGING, I WOULD APPRECIATE HEARING YOUR THOUGHTS.
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I HAVE COGNITIVE ISSUES AND WOULD LIKE HIM TO HELP WITH FINANCES CAUSE I'M AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES. I HAD ONE DAY OF POSITIVE TALK ABOUT HELPING. THEN I AM ATTACKED ABOUT SOMETHING UNRELATED AND NO OTHER HELP ON FINANCES (I DO FINANCES ONLINE USING QUICKEN).
HE HAS BELITTLED ME TO OTHERS, PAINTS ME AS A COMPLAINER (AND HERE I AM COMPLAINING) AND RESENTS ME CAUSE I HAVE SOMEONE WHO COMES IN TO WASH FLOORS AND VACUUM EVERY OTHER WEEK. HE TELLS ME I AM UNSYMPATHETIC TO HIM AND ALL HE IS GOING THROUGH BUT DOESN'T OFFER ANY SUSTAINED RECOGNITION OF THE CHALLENGES I HAVE WITH MS. I WORK 32 HOURS A WEEK AND MANAGE MOST TASKS YET, THOUGH SLOWER.
I AM AFRAID TO HAVE HIM COME TO MY NEUROLOGIST WITH ME CAUSE OF WHAT HE WILL SAY. HE TOLD THE DOC WHO DID MY NEUROPSYCH TESTS I WAS A GENIOUS (WHICH, OF COURSE, I AM NOT) AND HE DIDN'T NOTICE ANY MEMORY OR OTHER ISSUES I HAVE BUT THEN CONTINUOUSLY POINTS OUT MY POOR MEMORY.
I WAS ONLY RECENTLY DXD BUT WAS TOLD 20 YEARS AGO I HAD "PROBABLE" MS SO THIS ISN'T SOMETHING WE WERE SURPRISED BY. ANYONE WHO CAN OFFER ANY INSIGHT OR HAS A SPOUSE/SIGNIFICANT OTHER WHO IS/WAS SO CHALLENGING, I WOULD APPRECIATE HEARING YOUR THOUGHTS.
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