Hello first time on one of these and desperately looking for help,
I am seeking some additional help and information for myself about my mother. She has been living with MS for 10+ years. For years she has been going in and out of fits of anger and rage although they do not occur often maybe a few times a year they still happen, after a day or two she would apologize and we will move forward.
As of late the rages have been coming out of no where and been escalating in scale. She is becoming more and more violent slapping scratching has been upped to punching, choking , biting and last night she even sprayed me with mace. She now feels no remorse or responsibility for being out of control and at times doesn't see how out of control angry she gets.
I understand this is part of the disease but it's beginning to become difficult to keep placing blame on the abuse? I'm starting to wonder if any one else has been having these issues or if this is domestic abuse. as time goes on I am starting to be fearful for my well being every time this has happened it has started with an argument, I recognize the signs of the situation escalating and remove myself walking away and going to my room and every time she comes up barges in my room and physically attacks me.
Let it be known that I am absolutely not aggressive, and have never ever thought violence in any form is ok which is why I remove myself from a harmful situation to only be attacked. Just wanted to get some opinions if this is normal or if I am just trying to find excuses for a mother who is continually abusive and starting to not even feel bad about the way she treats others.
I fear that there will be a time when she gets into a rage and attacks me with a knife or other deadly weapon, she has swung curtain rods before but always felt bad but lately it's like she sees me as making her act this was and it is my fault that she attacks me even though I walk away??
I should mention I am 22 years old and in college it seems like when I come home for holidays and summer break it is always something but as of late it has just been out of control being that it can happen only a few times a year it is hard to get perspective. I have told her for years that the next time she lays hands on me I will be phoning the police but have ever had the guts to follow through being that she is still my mother and no matter how she treats me I still love her
Please give me some help and if you find your self out of control do not hesitate to try and explain me your reasoning I'm open to anything
** Moderator's note - Post broken into paragraphs for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print. **
I am seeking some additional help and information for myself about my mother. She has been living with MS for 10+ years. For years she has been going in and out of fits of anger and rage although they do not occur often maybe a few times a year they still happen, after a day or two she would apologize and we will move forward.
As of late the rages have been coming out of no where and been escalating in scale. She is becoming more and more violent slapping scratching has been upped to punching, choking , biting and last night she even sprayed me with mace. She now feels no remorse or responsibility for being out of control and at times doesn't see how out of control angry she gets.
I understand this is part of the disease but it's beginning to become difficult to keep placing blame on the abuse? I'm starting to wonder if any one else has been having these issues or if this is domestic abuse. as time goes on I am starting to be fearful for my well being every time this has happened it has started with an argument, I recognize the signs of the situation escalating and remove myself walking away and going to my room and every time she comes up barges in my room and physically attacks me.
Let it be known that I am absolutely not aggressive, and have never ever thought violence in any form is ok which is why I remove myself from a harmful situation to only be attacked. Just wanted to get some opinions if this is normal or if I am just trying to find excuses for a mother who is continually abusive and starting to not even feel bad about the way she treats others.
I fear that there will be a time when she gets into a rage and attacks me with a knife or other deadly weapon, she has swung curtain rods before but always felt bad but lately it's like she sees me as making her act this was and it is my fault that she attacks me even though I walk away??
I should mention I am 22 years old and in college it seems like when I come home for holidays and summer break it is always something but as of late it has just been out of control being that it can happen only a few times a year it is hard to get perspective. I have told her for years that the next time she lays hands on me I will be phoning the police but have ever had the guts to follow through being that she is still my mother and no matter how she treats me I still love her
Please give me some help and if you find your self out of control do not hesitate to try and explain me your reasoning I'm open to anything
** Moderator's note - Post broken into paragraphs for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print. **
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