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    Depression and anger

    I have been diagnosed for almost 2 years, but had memorable symptoms for about 6 years. I come to MSWorld to feel like I'm not alone and to get some pointers on dealing with life.

    Lately I have been blue and in a funk, extremely short tempered and overwhelmed with everything . I work full time, I have two kids (7&9) which I am home alone with for most of the time (husband works until they go to bed and every Saturday)

    My husband is very helpful, but I cant even tell him what I need without going off the deep end. And my kids don't deserve to receive my short tempered responses to their behavior.

    I need simple things I can do to get rid of the stress, guilt and gloom i am dealing with. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

    #2
    Talk to your neuro about it, they may ptescribe an anti depressant or up the dose if you are on one already.
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      #3
      I'm so very sorry to hear that you are in a funk and feeling depressed.... are you on a DMD - an interferon like Avonex or Rebif, etc.? Sometimes these have a side affect of depression. I was on Avonex and had to quit b/c of depression even though I was taking a strong antidepressant. Just a thought here.

      It's best to talk with your neuro or pcp about this or find a good therapist/counselor. Do you have time for acomiskey? That's so important for our your being. Maybe you could ask a friend to watch the kids and take an evening off once a week or so - and maybe go shopping! That always worked for me.

      Life in general takes it's toll on us all - I wish you well and send you hugs
      1st sx '89 Dx '99 w/RRMS - SP since 2010
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        #4
        Don't worry

        Its very bad that you are in a funk and feeling depressed. But you don't worry about this when your husband come to bed then talk with him lovingly and spend more time with your child and talk with them. You can spend your free time with your friends when you feel alone or suffering web its good idea to spend free time and make friends on social networking sites so that you can chat with them and share your feelings.

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          #5
          I know how you feel.. I tend to snap sometimes too.. I usually get out of the house and take some time outside of the house with myself. Even if its going to get some coffee and taking a short walk at the park (in the shade..LOL). Go get a mani-pedi. you need some meditating time and stay positive.. Sometimes the "woo is me" gets depressing, meditate on what you still can do and remember for every issue you have.. someone else has it worse.
          limbo land for 1 year and 4 months DX February 2012 Copaxon February 2012 for 6 months. No DMD's since.

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            #6
            Life with MS is tough enough without having to deal with mental health issues too. I think the others are right, ask your doctor for help, be open to taking an antidepressant. Sometimes they are used in people with MS for pain too - pain can set you on edge as well. It may be that you are in pain and not even be recognising it as pain, or that you are very fatigued and overstretched and the pressure is too much. Whatever it is, talk to your doc.

            It was only last year, after 13 years with MS, that I finally admitted how my mental health was poor. I was diagnosed with OCD and medication has turned my life around.

            Let us know how you get on, best wishes

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              #7
              acomiskey,
              You are NOT ALONE. Please come to this site for a reminder. We all need a little help sometimes. I am on an antidepressant because, I think, I came to a point where I couldn't deal with the loss of control and the loss of my mobility. We are in a tough place and I hope you will find a way to fight MS. Good luck

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                #8
                How could an anti-depressant possibly help

                I'm not on an anti-depressant because I knew just taking one wouldn't take the MS away and that's my I'm depressed. So how does an anti-depressant work for you? (and so many other pills I've taken for other things have all made me drowsy)

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                  #9
                  Oh Emily, just having 2 kids and working full time is already a full plate and then throw in the MS...no wonder you are so frustrated.

                  I cannot answer anything about anti-depressants but as others have suggested, it may be worth talking to your doc.

                  But I do know about taking care of a family and dealing with MS. I have 3 kids and the youngest was not even born when I was DX'd 16 yrs ago.

                  As others have replied, it is important to carve some time out for yourself, even a small amount of time. Your kids are old enough also to understand if you say, "mommy needs to lay down for 20 minutes so please be good". Take a short rest, read, meditate or paint your nails. A tired mom is never any good to anyone. Maybe on Sundays when Dad is home you get get away for a bit.

                  If you have any support system besides your hubby, don't be afraid to ask for help.

                  Getting yourself a little organized upfront is something I always found helpful as well. Plan meals a week ahead, kids backpacks and lunches ready the night before etc...those little things that cut down on stress. Maybe one night a week have a "cereal for dinner" night. That means no cooking for you and maybe you will have time to play a game with the kids and laugh together.

                  It is not easy but you are not alone on this journey. Best wishes to you.
                  Meet me in a land of hope and dreams. -Bruce Springsteen

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                    #10
                    Emily, I so feel for you dear. My kids are both college age and out of the house and I am currently on a leave of absence from work.
                    I have struggled the last few months with anger, fatigue, frustration.
                    I have learned to prioritize, plan my days out ahead of time - I know what I want and need to get done but it helps me to stay on track.
                    I have started planning my meals out ahead of time so when my 4:00 hit-the-wall hits, I still have a plan for dinner.
                    I make myself get outside and walk, sit in a chair in read, something outside daily.
                    I have reached out to so many friends lately and reconnected - it helps to have a network of buddies.
                    I do what I can each day - some days go great and some days not so great, but that's OK.
                    I have learned to say "NO" to people - I need to make my health my priority.
                    Hang in there!!!

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                      #11
                      I am very angry at this disease and the fact that there is nothing we can do about it. Yea I know diet, excercise and all the extra stuff. For me all this still does not work yet.

                      I am on anti-depressents not working either.I have tried several different ones and some together.

                      I think it's about accepting you have this disease and there is no cure and it will probably get worse. Learning how to deal with all that with a good attitude.

                      Good Luck to all of us!!!!!
                      DIAGNOSED=2012
                      ISSUES LONG BEFORE
                      REBIF 1 YEAR

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                        #12
                        Emily and acomiskey - I have been having the same down and out thoughts and feelings as both of you. Two weeks ago today I started on the generic for Lexapro and it has changed my life around!! Wish I would have admitted I needed an anti-depressant afew years ago. It has really helped my brain fog, moods, and mobility. I have a posting under Medications if you want to read more. Good luck to you both.

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                          #13
                          Acomiskey?

                          "Do you have time for acomiskey?"

                          I read that and immediately started a google search for "acomiskey" thinking it was something new to try.

                          Then the went on and I realized it was about taking time for one's self! It really made me laugh..at myself!

                          Gonna be one of those days!

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                            #14
                            Originally posted by mercadies25 View Post
                            I am very angry at this disease and the fact that there is nothing we can do about it. Yea I know diet, excercise and all the extra stuff. For me all this still does not work yet.

                            I am on anti-depressents not working either.I have tried several different ones and some together.

                            I think it's about accepting you have this disease and there is no cure and it will probably get worse. Learning how to deal with all that with a good attitude.

                            Good Luck to all of us!!!!!
                            Me too, angry depressed, although I'm not on antidepressants as the last time after my mom passed but before my dx I gained 40 lbs and I went on an insane spending binge - really insane like 20K worth.
                            And then one day I said to myself "Self - something is really wrong here - All this weight on and all this money gone has got to stop. Got off the antidepressants and the weight gain stopped and the spending stopped.
                            Now my depression is off again, on again and when it's on it's really black and scary down there but I'm terrified to do any mood stabilizing/modifying drugs after that last experience.
                            Trying to live in the moment helps but sometimes the moment gets blindsided by MS reality and then off I go again into the dark places.
                            I so feel for you all and good luck to us all!

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                              #15
                              Am now on an antidepressant which works a bit but other times I know that the only thing that will work for my depression is for this vile disease to go away and as there doesn't seem to be any possibility of this in the near future I'm depressed a lot of the time.

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